The loneliness of the sufferer

Pain makes us feel small, vulnerable, defenseless.

Homo sapiens (ma non troppo) is raised under the caretaker’s protection, someone who is close to be requested when uncertainty projects anxiety, fear ...

The caretaker detects and cares, thoughtfully, the creature’s complaints and calms the abandonment with actions.

If the caretaker fails, does not listen or look, even when caring thoughtfully, he or she can not avoid confessing his or her powerlessness, anguish at the failure as a caretaker. The sufferer comes down, sinks into the pit of despair, of helplessness, of abandonment. The suffering creature is certain of loneliness. The promised land of remedy and relief for everything doesn’t exist.

- We don’t know what’s happening. It’s a mystery. We've tried everything and I don’t know what else I can do.

- How can it be that, with all these advances...?

All the caretaker can do is shrug and show the harsh and stark expression of helplessness and detachment.

When the sufferer was still a child, the caretaker showed up with the painkiller and the glass of water, with the crushed aspirin in a teaspoon with some sugar. The scoop contained certainty of relief and so it was. The headache vanished with the simple logic of childhood.

- My head hurts ...

- I’ll bring you the painkiller.

Over the years the children remained with their complaints, but each time the gesture of the caretaker was less confident and effective. The home reliever was no longer useful. First a doctor, then the specialist ... until reaching the edge of the cliff.

The suffering (troppo) Homo sapiens (ma non troppo) remains the same creature, educated in the figure of the omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent caretaker, but has lost the certainty or, even worse, has the certainty of fraud.

- It hurts so much... somebody help me!

Experts continue to increase the list of "Science’s” spectacular progress.

- We can take a picture (in color) of pain. We know where the brain creates it.

The sufferer gives an uncertain sigh of hope: "If you knew where the factory of pain is, you could drop some chemical bombs there and stop it..."

There are experts for everything. Those politically correct (as politicians) like anticipating results, but there are also those politically incorrect and scientifically honest that add their point of incorrection (political) embittering the sweetness of promises.

- Actually, the brain areas responsible for pain are also responsible for all relevant states, including the perception of social exclusion.

Brain facilities allegedly responsible for the pain, the so-called neuromatrix of pain, also show off their red color in the Functional Magnetic Resonance when something relevant happens or someone is very lonely.

- It hurts, something is going on in there, I feel helpless and misunderstood.

- You were right .... Look, this red area indicates that your brain is hypersensitive and that it activates the areas responsible for giving importance to things even if they’re not important, and making you feel lonely even when you’re accompanied. You have hyper relevance syndrome and social self-exclusion. It could be the serotonin, dopamine ... or of course the genes ...

- Is there any treatment for this?

- At the moment, we have no drugs that turn the brain into what we wish, but the only thing you can do is accept your situation. You must identify everything that your brain considers important and avoid it, without leaving aside your relationships with people, so you don’t feel that alone.

- You told me to get into a dark room and not talk to anyone...!